Relationships, Love and Sex

Let’s TAKE A WHILE TO 'THINK' AS we all love to say it! Relationships, 'love', sex etc is a part of life. Why can't we accept it? Yes sex is not great by itself but in itself it is! True, but we have to go rung by rung, 'there are no SHORTCUTS in life.' (Elders say this I'm simply quoting it, please don't pounce on me!!!)

First of all love is the intrinsic quality of the mettle! On one hand whole of the society wants people to love their parents, teacher, elders etc. Love cannot be extended to anyone and EVERYTHING. We are limiting love. We are in the stagnant waters and say that it stinks, pretty cool, isn't it? Now we all talk about unconditional love and so on and so forth but look at the parody, we ourselves are limiting the love and conditioning at every point in time! "Is this your age? Are you still so mature enough?" What does this signify? Love is an object that has to pop in after 18 or 21 according to whatsoever the imbecile law has to say. Love is something that is highly horrendous for teens and all then all of a sudden ‘that love’ has to be extended only to ONE AND ONE ONLY PARTNER! The LOVE has to be very different in quality for brothers and sisters, between parents and their children, between teachers and students, all the other relations that exist! We defined love, oops, sorry have we ‘DEFINED or DEFIED’ love? Love has remained the dictionary, that’s all! Teens are not normal people, they grow horns- they must be some sort of beasts! Love has been reduced to abject poverty. It is being exported and imported! We say there has to be an age to love, but do we have any specific age after which you start eating? No it's a part of the whole; that cannot be! Love is the innermost that expresses itself whenever an opportunity arises (indeed it is always there) if ALLOWED. On one hand we want people to love and on the other hand we're condemning and limiting love. There is a split in our minds too, and that is being imposed on everyone! "You have to love" - love cannot occur, it is simply a flowering in the absence of hate. Love cannot be cultivated with plough and a pair of ox! Thus it is totally absurd to control love, the moment you start dictating or going against we destroy love. How does grass grow? You have to nurture it, wait for it to grow - you cannot pull into long blades! If you go on dictating love you uproot it right there! So this whole idea of condemning teens for love is totally a shit. And as such you want love for your nation, you want love for materialism, how is that possible when we ourselves go and uproot love. It’s like expecting a mango after cutting the tree! We are poisoning the food and when it passes down the tommy doctors say it is food poisoning! Love has to have certain arenas and certain moral obligations to be fulfilled! Huh, is this is a part-time money building machine or what?

We say that love is 'useless matter'. How can love be coined useless? However we must be referring to the folly of 'so-called love', but how has it arisen? When can real love arise? Just because people down the ages have been hammering on the heads that 'love is useless pot of shit, it is a sin'; we have taken it for granted. One thing must be noted here that whatsoever is natural cannot be damned and even if it is we'll be in a thick soup! By that logic whole of the existence is a sin. ‘What is the need to admire a flower it is as much a sin? Why do we eat fruits? It is all sin. Why do we admires peacocks dancing, it is a sin?’ So in short nothing on the earth could be but sin. So how can you place flowers on the heads/feet of the gods and goddesses, it is a sexual organ and not call, it sexy! The religious people are all lot of real-life pornographers than! Consider a dam. Immense water is descending unto it, due to heavy down pours. If the doors aren't open the dam would burst due to the pressure, it is bound to happen. You cannot go against nature. We can use up all the energy in combating but we will be forced to go with the wind. We can surely REPRESS NATURE but we cannot DESTROY it. Intellectually we may say love is the hindrance, we may do whatsoever in the day, but in the night? Why do people go mad about dreams? We go on pressing what is innate, and somehow it has to come out. Once the door is open, it oozes out through every nook and corner! It cannot be shut ‘without opening the other door’, can it be? People suffer of wet dreams (nocturnal emissions), why? 90% do because of repressions! Why do we need to flow against the current? Nature will assert itself whatsoever we do, there's no way!

Teenage is a part of life where the root energy of life is developing. You hinder it and it asserts itself in other ways, may be anger, jealousy, greed and so on. It is a topsy-turvy expression, but we have done it by our own hands! Mind becomes disturbed when the natural course is disturbed, we just can let it flow and the sky will change by itself.

 Why have we to say that boys and girls cannot love each other? This is really strange, I mean everyone PASSES THROUGH THESE STAGES OF LIFE and nobody accepts it normally! People talk of following your own conscience but when the actual practice has come into picture, we don't allow it to happen! We follow someone else's dictates! You may argue that it is a simple INFATUATION and not love. True but infatuation is the first rung to the ladder of love. You are breaking the first step and telling us to jump on to the terrace, how is it possible? There must be a step by step process. What is god - That which is! How can you ignore that which is? Nature cannot be ignored; it is none of your ‘Maya’! If it was than for the enlightened one hunger, thirst, pain would all disappear, but it is not so! Ramkrishna died of cancer and was he not the greatest living example of all the ‘holy scriptures’ and the beyond? Love if not insulted can express its grandeur in many ways that are even beyond the scope of imaginations or cognition! But there has always been hocus-pocus and thus nothing ever seems to be in order.

We say that love is something non-materialistic. No, love of this kind is something which is the most materialistic, the most mundane, it knows no divinity. It is simply there because of the pull of nature, we are simply like slaves. It is totally object-oriented, there is no subjectivity. How can we say that it is im-materialistic? If it was I’m-materialistic, than it could have been divine, there is no third alternative. And by that chase, we are even denying something that is divine! This is an intricate circle! ‘Behavior and pretension’ are the obverse and reverse of the same coin. Behavior is nothing but the shadow of pretension. They both occur in turns and give momentum to each other. Hence it is endless. It is the bases to thing to say that 'your behavior should be apt', because behavior itself is very gross. Behavior is simply the by-product of either a belief or an experience. If the behavior is because of experience then and then it is true, everything else is a mere pretension. So it is not at all feasible to say that pretension or behavior is at the ebb! Something more grievous has gone wrong, unless you won't put it right, it's gonna nag you forever and a day!

Who are heroes and heroines, if we were to blame the bollywood/hollywood for our downfall? They simply are people like you and me. They have all the ambitions that we have, they are our peers! They have got the same mind. So if we find a fanatic movie, it is just an expression. You may go on cursing an abuse floating in the air but until and unless you fix me it's not going to help a bit! Films are expressions of repressions! So please don't abuse films or heroes and heroines, because we are no different, we are the same sheeps of the same herd! None is to be blamed but our own selves! Be it Swami Vivekananda, Kabir, Buddha or Osho – Everyone has only one thing to say!

Wastage is a very relative term. You may find me wasting time on some neurotic phenomena, but that's because you've surpassed that level. People go on saying the riches are futile, but for a beggar... he thinks that the bowl is full and he is standing with an empty one!!! Until I don't experience that it is garbage I’ll not drop it, are you getting me? Adults have been torturing themselves from ages and hence they want their children to suffer. There is no love, you may call it so, but deep down just ponder over it is a mutual arrangement, a vicious circle. If I have ever loved myself, then possibly I may be overflowing with love so the remnants are showered upon you, but otherwise it's not possible. Adults have not been able to love themselves, so they are imposing, dictating their sub-ordinates, as simple as this. It is a thirst for power, to control, to rule. it is nothing but ego! You may want to coat quinine with sugar but it makes no difference, whatsoever!

Non-violence is the key to success. Then why are we so adamant to fight nature, in India - A Gandhian nation? Virtue is only skin deep, unless it descends through experience. You may go on talking for centuries but what of it? Relationships, 'love', sex etc is a part of life. Why can't we accept it? Yes sex is not great by itself but in itself it is! True, but we have to go rung by rung, 'there are no SHORTCUTS in life' (elders say this I'm simply quoting it, please don't pounce on me!!!). The path to the divine is of course is through nature, you cannot carve it, because anything carved will only be but an illusion, a hallucination! If we stop harassing nature, and flow with it 90% of FUTILE EXPENDITURE will stop and we will be able to channelize our energies into greater depths and heights and soar to the summits!

Let girls and boys mix with each other freely, open up the curtains, and see the splendor of it. Don't make a fuss about love because none of us know what 'LOVE' is. Acceptance is the way. SO LET'S STOP CALLING UGLY NAMES. As such we have not been able to achieve anything in thousands of years by that bullshit, so why not try something new? There's no fear of losing, as we haven't achieved anything! So let's move on! Talking about compassion, love, god is simply a teddy bear in the hands of kids. But these kids have a great command in the society and call themselves adults! If we really want to be THE BODHISATVAS we must REALLY BECOME KIDS AND NOT PRETEND! In pretensions we forget our original face altogether, it's a perilous game! Let's follow our hearts and not the mind, because it will keep on doing blunders as it is borrowed and each part of it will contradict the other!